Lions, Tigers, and School OH My

Well here where we are at kids have been in school about a month. It is just amazing to see the fact of how fast my baby girl is growing. I can remember the days when she was learning to read, having to sound the words out and all. Now she finishes a whole book set in less than a week, mind you all of these books are 500 pages plus. BANG mind blowing, I am totally amazed. She is in 7th grade and reading high school level books. I have to say that at this point she is going surpass me in knowledge before she graduates High School. Well maybe not that , but she is certainly gonna be a extremely intelligent young lady. Whats even more amazing is even though she my not have the sport aptitude, she is currently in student council for the 2nd year and going out for Vice President. No matter the out come , if she gets elected or not she will represent that school with all her heart. She is an amazing person who can make friends no matter where she is, or where she goes. I have honestly lost count of the people that she has introduced me this year alone. Again school has only been in about a month. All of our children have such great potential , some just don't know it yet. We as parents must allow them to have just enough freedom to figure this out with the right amount of guidance and encouragement for them reach their full potential. I look at my daughters  friends and I see amazing children, some are following a different path than others , and that is OK. My daughter is what you would consider a Nerd or a Geek. It's funny to hear someone call her that , she actually thanks them. Cause I explained to her that it isn't a bad thing to be smart, in most cases the people making fun of her will end up working for her later in life.  You might wanna think about that, who do you think made all the fun stuff you play on or check your Facebook... Yep that's right nerds and geeks. If that isn't enough think about it next time your at the Dr.... Hello these people aren't stupid. I am not putting down any athletes at all , some of the great athletes are very well educated and are extremely smart. It's like one of my professors told a class in college once." I have no problem if you choose to do the work or not it's your money, besides that the world always needs Burger Flipper and Cashiers".  I took that as it is your choice to be what you want to be, I don't believe he was putting these jobs or people who work them down.  I believe he was just saying , if you want it you have to work for it. Hell I am rambling again, so it is time for me to go.  Well until next time.....


Peace, Love, and Chicken Grease

Guns, Guns, And Guns

I will start this off with the disclaimer that I understand everyone has there opinion on this and that is fine, This is just the way that I see things in my perspective. First off for all of those of you that are FOR gun control you should realize that our country, liberty's, and rights are defended buy responsible people with guns. Not only that but every politician that is trying to take away the right to own or limit the right to own guns are protected by people with guns. Now there have been some very tragic events happen that make you wonder if we need to make stiffer or more strict gun control laws. Well just so you know better than 3/4 of all crimes that were committed was done by someone who did not obtain the guns they used legally or could not obtain them legally, so gun laws would not have prevented them form carrying out their cowardly attacks.  But wait Bryon then went in to a school and targeted children, or went into a church and shot these poor people. Well that's because in most states these are gun-free zone and it is illegal to have them on the grounds. Well look people the hard reality to this is that is why they pick these places. There is no one to stand against them or stop them. The fact is we have better than 8 million legal gun owners right now, and notice I did say LEGAL. Not all of these people own guns for the same reasons, some own them to hunt, others own them for sport, and then people own them to protect there family. Dialing 911 only takes a few seconds, but what about that gap between the call and when the police get there?? A lot can happen in a matter of minutes. This is an argument that can branch out in to so many areas that you can literally spend a week talking or debating about it. I myself have guns for two reasons, 1, to protect my family, and 2 I like to take my daughter shooting. I did have my daughter take a hunters and gun safety course before I put guns into my house. Which if our school can teach sex education , why cant they teach  gun safety also??  In history there have been leaders and governments that took away the rights of their citizens to own guns, and more often then not this ended with a dictatorship that was followed by horrific events that can not be overlooked. If you need an example Hitler did this, Sudam Husian  also did this. Look what they did to there people. Our forefathers put the constitution together for us. This isn't just about the second amendment its about them all. Once we allow them to take one thing away what is there to prevent them from taking everything away. The people who sat down on July 4th 1776  and signed our Deceleration Of Independence knew this. I will stop here and leave you with 2 quotes from a great man in history Thomas Jefferson.  "The strongest reason for the people to retain the right to keep and bear arms is, as a last resort, to protect themselves against tyranny in government." and "When the people fear their government, there is tyranny; when the government fears the people, there is liberty."


peace,love, and chicken grease

Bryon

Life is Life

Well with current change in environment thing always seem to cross my mind. I hear everything people say about me and use that to evaluate myself from time to time to see if  I can improve my overall person. Now some of this stuff is just me , it will never change. I am me I change for one person and one person only...ME. The thing is I have made minor and major changes due to my life priorities have changed . I did these in order to live a better life, but they were by my choice. We all have a choice to change or  not to change . We live in a world that is uncertain and very confusing. The whole thing is so confusing that it is hard to keep up with. I sound like and old fart now, but hey its not like I am up on all the cool lingo. We have problem in our society now a days sending our younger generations mixed signals on what is right and what is wrong.  There is too many gray areas to deal with, in my opinion the guy who came up with political correctness should be slapped with a book. To many of our younger generation feel like they are entitled to stuff , the core values are flying out the window. And the problem is a simple one, it is us the parents. Now I know that some people will or will not agree with this , and that's ok but its a fact. We haven't taught our children the value of earning thing and how to appreciate the value. Most of us are guilty of this in one way or another, I am I cant deny it. The environment has changed also, it use to be one parent could support the whole family on that income. Now you would be lucky if you can do it on two.  All we try can do is to try our best , teach our children what we believe is the right way and hopefully it will work out. This is a hard thing for a parent to sit and think about, because it scares me to death. With the way our world is now I worry about what the future holds for my daughter. I will continue to do the very best I can, and improve on stuff where I can and when I can. In other words Welcome to Life....

Until Next Time

Peace,Love and Chicken Grease

The Indiana Expedition

Captains Log  692013

This morning I woke up to see that do to unforeseen forces the weather is still very cold, colder than my current home of Tn. And due to some ominous forces in the background of this culture fuel here has become extremely high in cost. Even with intense investigation with the locals there is no true rhyme nor reason for this only speculation as to who or what caused this hardship on the surrounding indigenous population. I have  taken a few excursions with my brother who is a local here where we were born and raised. It is very hard to describe the feeling I get coming back here to see the changes that have happened over the course of my time of being away. I can say I do find comfort in the fact I still have some great friends that are in the area. At some point I intend to see if it may be possible to meet with some of them and see about there well being. The time for festivity's are starting to approach us, so this may present an opportunity to allow me to meet up with some. Contact with my home world has been brief, due to the fact that they are on a different time cycle. I will attempt to get in contact with some of my fellow Tennesseans in the near future. My daughter is adapting, well OK. See enjoys seeing the friends and family but She has also shown signs of missing her friends. I guess its a good thing she has her portable communicator to be able to stay in contact with them. Seeing my nephew and niece is always and exciting time, they are growing up so fast it is hard for me to keep up. My Mother and Father are doing well, and My Brother and Sister-in-law (or really just Sister) are doing well also. The atmosphere here is playing havoc with my Ménière's disease,but that is OK I will adjust the best that I can.  I will be exploring more in the up coming weeks on my expedition here to see what other interesting things I can find,if any. As my home world the ammo situation is very dire here, but I will keep exploring to see if I might be able to establish a source to acquire some. Some of the native have not taken kindly to me as of late, but I am hoping that will change in the during the rest of my expedition. I will update as best as I possibly can with any breaking news that is important. Tell then.....

Peace, Love, And Chicken Grease

FAMILY

Well First off I would like to send out prayers to all the families and victims in Oklahoma. You never know when tragedy will hit. I wish you all the best in your recovery from the events that have happened over the last few days. Ok on to the my post here, you know I have a million things that I could talk about or write. The thing is knowing when to put them out there, timing is everything. I could literally write on this everyday if I wanted to. Then I think that people would get bored with what I am writing about. I have many thing that I am passionate about. One of the most important things that I hold very close and sacred to me is my family. Now well all have our defined answers to what Family is. I have to say I have family that I am not even related to. I have a group here in TN that treat me as if I was one of the family and my daughter looks up to them and loves them all. I love this because the bond is so much better that even when we are mad at each other we are still family. I have my biological family in IN, I love them unconditionally. They would do anything in their possible means for me, and I know this. I have my adopted brothers that are scattered over several states. I keep in touch as best as possible, to keep up on their lives. The thing is Blood doesn't alway make you family, the bond between you does. Are you willing to stand up for these people when they need you the most. I have become friends with a lot of people in my life time and each and ever one of them brings  something unique to the table. I really don't think you can ever have to many friends.. But one thing is for sure if your family I will bend over back for you when you need me. My father told once, well maybe more than once. "You Always Take Care Of The Ones That Take Care Of You" and I try my hardest. Well folks I outta here for now.. Be safe and Be smart.



Peace, Love, and Chicken Grease

BULLYING

Bullying , this right here sparks many thoughts and emotions in people. The fact is that better than 95% of all people has had to deal with this issue at one point or another.  So what do we do? How do we handle this problem? I am not going to say it has gotten worse since I was in school , but I will say that the methods of bullying have change very much. There are many places,clubs, and organizations out there to try to address this and help our young people. But the same problem still stands today as it did when I was a kid. Kids are just too afraid of backlash and ridicule from there peers if they report this. One of the worst labels that you can get in school is a snitch. So this creates a problem, if we as parents,teacher, and friends don't know about the problem we cant help. Even if we do our children beg us not to say anything because of  the fear of backlash. Now as most of you know that read my blog I always have an opinion on things all the time. Right or wrong in a sense I think that with our society now a days children feel entitled. With that said and all the political correctness that is swirling around , most children haven't been taught to have what i call thick skin.  Now I am not down playing bullying by no means, but let face the facts here people kids are mean to each other for what ever reason. There is a line that shouldn't be crossed and once it is then we should constitute that as bullying. Other wise our kids need to suck it up and learn to deal with it. I know this sound harsh , but think of the logic behind it. When they get out of school and college if choose to go they are going to be entering the REAL WORLD. It is not a nice place out there , and painting the picture of that to our children is hurting them and setting them up for a rude awakening in the future. I have had some bosses that were way more abusive verbally and mentally than any bully i met in school. The fact is you will never be able to stop this completely. What we can do is teach our children to stand up for themselves build their self esteem  and learn the right way to handle these situations. A child should never feel that suicide is their last option to stop  what is happening to them. We as parents and people of the community need to stop our busy lives and listen. Once again if you don't know there is a problem you cant fix it. Ask questions and watch what is going on in you childrens lives and if you see something that doesn't feel right about one of their friends ask them, or inform the parents so they know to watch or ask. Now  a lot of the parents that I know have teens or pre-teens and it is like trying to wrestle food out of a gators mouth to get them to open up because they are embarrassed or afraid of what will happen.  We need to let our kids know we have their backs when shit hits the fan. Empower them with the knowledge that they are capable of letting things go and dealing with these bullys , have thick skin. We as parents have many  option to explore when situations get to a point that it needs to be handle by us, and we need to not be afraid to use them. I love my daughter and if you know how I feel about her you also know I would go through hell and high water for her. But I am also teaching her to try to handle and resolve problems on her own. Boy or Girl now is the time to teach our kids to have a backbone, other wise when the become adult they will get walked all over in life. I apologize if anything I said offended anyone ,but once again it is my opinion

Peace,Love, And Chicken Grease

My Life In SciFi and Fantasy

This is a very large and open topic, it can cover a whole range of things. At least once in everyone's lifetime they have read ,watched or play something that involves either scifi or fantasy. Now i personally love these to   subjects as I am huge fan of several books,game,movies, and TV shows that  fall into these categories. I am a huge StarWars fan as well as Firefly. Most of my friends are geeks in one way or another. One of my great friends and his wife are huge Star Trek  fans. Me  and Andy grew up together and were nerds from the very beginning  Now he moved away for a couple of years , but returned back in the 6th grade. We picked up right where we left off and spent a lot of time doing different weird and fun things. He is one of my friends that I can truly say I don't think that we have ever had a disagreement ever, if we did we always found our middle ground. Now the thing about me and Andy is when we got together is our imaginations were equal in every way. We like to dream big about some of the stuff we did. We started to play Dungeons and Dragons in about the 8th or 9th grade. We had an awesome group of people we played with, and would spend hours playing. In order to play a true role playing game like this , imagination is a must. There is no telling how many hours just flew by without us even realizing it. That was probably one of the most defining moments in my teenage life. It allowed me to find my self and know that I wasn't the only weird guy out there.  Now this was a time when I remember that the main topic of kids was sports in school . That just could be only what I remember also. But one thing was for sure I never felt like an outcast because of what I did. Let me tell you this Andy had one of the most amazing minds out there when we were kids, he still does. He has an imagination that is matched by very few,and he is not afraid to use it. We decided one day that we wanted to make our own role playing game. This started an adventure that I will never forget. I bet we spent close to almost  2 months planing ,read,writing, and drawing (Andy did the drawing) this game. We had a great start and gathered a bunch of friends and started to play. It was so awesome,  to see people enjoying something that you co-created . I remember just about every time we played , it is still etched into my brain like it was yesterday. One day many years later after we moved on with our ADULT lives , I grabbed a note book  and just out the blue started to write about some of the adventure we played in this game adding some stuff along the way. By the time I had finished the first time I had filled the entire notebook without even realizing it.. To my amazement I still had so much more to write about. That is how much of an impact this time had on me. I still believe that what we created so many years ago would totally make some of the most amazing books and movies you would ever see or read. That is if I ever get around to finish writing them and transferring them to the computer so everyone can read them. One of the big problem I have is that my brain is running way faster than I can type or write. So I know what it is that is supposed to be written , but  Ill  forget to write some stuff . I have to reread it several time in order to make sure it makes sense to everyone else.  I would most definitely would have to get Andy to help me finish it. Of course then we would be instantly rich and famous from having bestsellers and movie deals. I really need to set a goal to  finish  this in the future, it would be awesome just to complete it . If for nothing else than to publish only a couple of copies for Andy and me. I think that every parent should encourage  their children to embrace their own  imagination and let it flow. For myself and Andy ours did and today it has made us both unique individuals.Our children are exposed to experiences that foster and nurture this . I see this with both of us, and I believe that  both of our girls will grow up and change the world in their own way. If not for imagination all of the things you surround yourself with would not be there today. This is one of those topics that I could honestly go on forever about. So imagine big ,imagine often. Write it down, draw it out and change the world.


Peace , Love, and Chicken Grease

The Evil That Hides Among Us

With the recent events the transpired in Boston I decided to watch the local news for a change. I wanted to get live coverage of the tragedy that  had happened, because as I had mentioned in one of my earlier posts that news sources varied online . Now I know that they are still looking for answers as to what happened , why, and who. So I can totally understand the reason for the confusion of the details . And I also certainly understand not disclosing all of the details ,because of ongoing investigations. Plus the fear of copycats acts would happen else where. Now my daughter was also watching and was really having a difficult time understanding why some one would or even could do something like this. It is even harder as a parent to explain when at this point no really knows a real motive as of yet. Also this presented an opportunity to educate my daughter on some of the evils out in the world. As Americans we live our lives with our eyes half open. We don't want to believe the evil is out there until it hits home. Now you can ask anyone that knows me , anytime I take my daughter any where  I hardly ever let her out of my sight. Am I  an over protective parent? maybe , maybe not.  We have to look  at the world with our eyes wide open. Be aware that our world and our country have evil people in it. The question is why do people do these terribly acts of terror against other people. That is what I was asked last night, talk about tough questuion to answer. That fact is people around the world hate the US as a country. Some because of how we live, some of what we have done. In general  some people hate other just because they can or it could be they way they were raised. Who knows why, it just happens that way. Our children need to be taught that our country isn't as safe as we would like it to be. Also people can be evil ,so trust must be earned not given..Now understand its not easy to have your children watch such acts of terrible scenes off terror. But by denying them of these experiences we are allowing them to enter the world with a false sense of security. As a parent I feel obligated to prepare my daughter for what may lay ahead. That includes all the good as well as the bad. This is a very difficult task accomplish when you never know what the future has in store for our children. I wish I didn't have to include this in to my parenting , but predators are everywhere. My heart goes out to all the tragedies that are happening all around the world. It use to only be we would do drills in school for fires or bad weather, now we have to include for a shooter situation. There will always be people who resent us for what we have,what we believe in,  and who we worship. I don't have all the answers , I also don't believe our government has them either. Although they may have good intentions , there methods and solutions leave many doubts to are they doing more harm than good.. I think that it is up to me to  as  a parent to educate my daughter in certain subjects the way I believe. When the time comes that she is mature enough to understand all situations to make her own decisions in life. May the Good Lord above be with us all as parents and as a country as we set forward on this amazing and scary  journey ahead o us I think thats good for now.
.God Bless all my friends and family

The News

Every morning I have a routine just like most people do. One of those is I check several News sites to try to catch up on the latest news available. Which got my brain to thinking about the whole news industry as we have it today. I hate to say it in this manner, because of course it makes me sound old LOL. But when I was growing up as a kid there were very few mediums that provided news. Now you can get your daily fix anywhere. It is just so mind boggling of the fact that now all you have to do is pull out your smart phone and BAM there it is. I read 98% of my news from various sites and mostly tech blogs. But it is absolutely mind blowing to the amount of information that is at the touch of a button now. I remember having to go to the library or use the encyclopedias in order to do a school report. Now kids just Google or Bing and right there it is 15 million pages of info. Now don't get me wrong you have to get your info from a reputable source  and do some fact checking ,but its still way easier. Anyone can start a blog and throw up info based on their  opinion any time any where. It kinda makes you wonder how valid all this info that is being presented to us is. Even some of the major news companies use blogs and the Internet as a source now. I have honestly read the same story told 3 different ways on different sites. And I am not talking some Joe somoe site but big sites like yahoo and msn. Plus you know that almost all of the news is padded up to bring flare to them. We are living in the age of real time now,moving faster than ever. My father who has recently in the last few years joined the 21st century acquired his first smart phone here in the last year or so. While talking to my Mother last night she was telling me how it was storming and Dad has an app on his phone , that when lightning strikes it can tell him how far away it is. lol I really don't have a point or complaint here just making a simple observation that made me think. It kinda makes me wonder what things will be like int the next 10 years, heck even the next 5. Just something to ponder. Everyone have a great day and week. I am outta here.


Peace, Love, and Chicken Grease

Why???

Why? This is a question that will gain you knowledge and also get you in trouble. LOL  I posted this on my Facebook page a few days ago. The amazing thing is that in our society the people who tend to ask this question on a regular basis are considered difficult or even anti-social.  I am a little bit of a conspiracy theorist  on certain things. But I wont get into that for now. People who believe or even trust our government whole heartily are very naive. Now I am  not anti-government , but like every house sometimes its good to clear the trash out once in a while. Some of you say, well we vote. This is true but look at the choices that we have. Not exactly what I would call cream of the crop. These people are supposed to represent us, but are they really? Could they just be attending to their own agendas? Of course they are and if you cant see it then you are either turning your head or blind. Now here comes part of the conspiracy, our media doesn't tell us the whole story all the time. This is an example of like history books, only the winners write the ending. Sometimes we have to dig deeper in order to see the whole picture. This is where the question WHY? is so dangerous, most people know better but still believe what they are told. You know that logically it could never be true the way it is presented. Common sense kicks in and throws up a red flag, but yet we brush it aside and go with the flow. Only in the last maybe 6-8 years have people started to wake up and seeing whats in front of them. People have always been around questioning things. Now the numbers are starting to grow in leaps and bounds. As a middle aged man I have seen a lot in the short time I have been here. When people start to challenge what this country was founded on it is very scary. There is a reason that we are taught history in school. Its so we know the mistakes that were made in the past and hopefully not make them again. To me it seems that the people running our country forgot this or was asleep  during history class. Now I don't have all the answers on how to fix all the problems, but I do know a few thing that just make common sense to me. And here are a couple 1. If you want to balance the budget allow the people to vote whether or not the senate and the house of reps get a raise. In most companies you get a raise based off your performance and how well you do you job. Why not them , They work for us ,we are the ones who pay them. Makes sense doesn't it? 2.First if my house and my neighbors house is broke, I'm gonna fix mine first. It should be the same  for this country. We have problems here that need to be resolved ,then and only then should we take care of other countries.  I could go on with an entire laundry list of things , but this enough for now.  Now I read the other day our president is taking a 5% cut in pay per month I believe. I know that some people believe this is his way of making an effort. But in reality its a joke, he is worth millions. So the approximately $1200 a month is like him buying a pack of gum at the gas station. Bill Gates one of the richest men in the world gave Half....yes I said Half of his fortune to charity. There are CEO's out there that have reduced their yearly salary to a $1 in order to help their company . I think the people in our government to take a lesson from some of these people. But hey what do I know, right. This is all my opinion you may or may not agree and that is fine. I have no Idea how to get our country out of the problems that we are in , but  I think that have some good ideas of where to start. Or maybe I am full of it. Who knows, all I know is what they are doing really isn't working very well. Until next time .


Peace, Love and Chicken Grease

Title Change

There might be some confusion as to what I change the title to my blog to. This is to clarify what I mean. There is a saying that goes" The Only Easy Day Was Yesterday" . I chose to put my title to "The Hardest Day Was Yesterday". The reason for this is I need to try to keep as positive as I can in my situation. And if I believe that any day I have cant be any harder than the day before it keeps my spirits up. When dealing with life you just have to believe tomorrow is going to be better. Because of my daughter I can not afford to let my problems bring me down. She is aware of most everything that is wrong with me. And I am trying to use myself as an example of why you have to take care of your body better. I am sorry but we lack in areas of teaching our children how to take care of themselves. I know this,and I am guilty of this. So I am working on changing it. I never want anyone to have to go through or experience some of the things I have or am going through now. Dont get me wrong I know there are a lot of people who have it worse than I do. But still it is my duty and responsibility to my daughter to direct her in the right direction. I have and continue to keep moving forward even if the world starts spinning on me lol. Out for now ..

Peace,Love and Chicken Grease

New Month New Start

Well we are into April all ready , Boy how time flys when you having ummm fun ya...lol   So I went to the Dr. last week to get check up on my diabetes. and levels are coming down but still not where they should be. So my med were readjusted. Well I am happy to report for the first time in nearly a year or more my blood sugar levels are almost maintaining a normal level. WOOOOO HOOOO still have some work ahead of me but hey we are heading down the right path. I also got some assistance with weight control , which I really need. This is because as some of you know weight and diabetes are connected in ways, I need to loose weight for my diabetes, but it's hard cause of the diabetes to loose weight . If that makes any sense.  I did have one scare this week where I miscalculated my insulin and took just a little to much and it dropped way lower than I have ever had , below normal and while I was sitting in my chair I passed out. Now my daughter tried to wake me up several times and couldn't  get me awake. She thought that I had just fell asleep. So the next day after talking to my AWESOME mom , My daughter and I had a training session on what to do if something like this happens again. With the way my situation is with my blood sugar  this could have been very very bad. Thank the good lord that it all turned out fine. So now I check and recheck and recheck again before I take my shot. With the weight assistance so far according to my scales I have lost approx. between 8-10 pounds all ready and I am hoping to shed some more off  before the end of the month. I have changed my eating habits drastically. Contrary to belief I dont mind being big , I know that my weight is consider fat. But I look at my self as chubby and like who I am. The reason for me loosing weight is I would really like to not have to take 4 shots a day. So i figure if I can do this it would be one less thing I would have to worry about. Now I have to say I have an awesome Dr. who is just amazing period. She not only saved my life once already, but she has been through a great deal in her life in the past year and she shows such strength. I don't know personally what goes on behind the scenes . But you can just tell she is a strong person, and very caring. Plus she puts up with me when I am there. The main thing is she treats my daughter great. Also the whole office everyone in there is amazing they work really well together. I just wish that I could see them all while I was at Walmart or something instead of the Dr. office , if you know what I mean..lol  This week has been a week of stressful phone conversations with insurance companys and getting ready to change insurances cause I am coming off of COBRA. Yeah I thought my premium was gonna drop , Well thank you pre-existing conditions. So that's about all I want to get into on that one or this will be a 20 page soap box rant. I also have to say I happen to have the greatest Family an Friends in the entire world, Hands down. I really am fortunate to have all of these great people in my life, even if we dont see eye to eye all the time. I know I can count on them when times get tough. I dont think that I can ever express that enough. Even if all it is,is a conversion over the phone to bring my spirits back up that makes a tremendous amount of difference. Just the fact that I can chat with great friends I use to work with on the Xbox really makes my day sometimes.  The fact that I probably never get rid of the dizzy spells sucks. I know my path has been chosen for me, and i shall walk it . I will keep moving forward and trying to get the most out of life that I can. And i will always be thankful for what I have. Well I'm out for now.


Peace,Love, and Chicken Grease
Just remember to watch out for Bigfoot, He is out there???????

Life

As some may have noticed I changed the title of my blog. The reason for this is I don't think it accurately described the content that I have been putting on here. I believe that I am not really angry, but more frustrated at so many things in this thing we call life. So I am going  to try to write about thing from my past,present,and future. Try to be more positive about the things that I write in my blog. For instance I seen on the tv for something that perked my interest. The website called iamsecond.com , I encourage everyone with or with out faith  to check this out. This is a great testament to Jesus Christ, with many testimonials on so may levels. Now I know that some of my friends and family believe and some don't. And this is fine most know where I stand. Just in case you don't know I am saved so is my daughter. There was  information on the website that has really made sense to me. I know that I should do better in my life to be a better person on many different levels. And I consider myself a work in progress still. I truly found faith during my divorce, it was hard . I had a few choices on how to live my life I could bow out be a part time dad. Being involved when I decided to or had time. But I always knew in my life that I was destine to be or do something great. And then it hit me , I was to be a father to the best of my ability. If you know me I work really hard at this honor as I would put it . See I believe it is a privilege  to be a parent , and I have been blessed to have the most amazing daughter in the universe. She continues to impress and amaze me everyday. I have no doubt that she herself will grow up to great things, what ever they may be. I know a few new parents , and I always get asked advice on how to do things. I kind of stay away from giving them advice,but more tell them what worked for me . every child has a unique personality and not everything works for everyone. Man being a Parent  is a hard job. probably the most stressful . Not for the fact of what the kids do , but more the worrying if you are making the right choices to guiding  them to be the best that they can be. I am very fortunate to being told that I am doing a great job raising my daughter on my own . This is also stressful because now I have to strive to maintain or improve on what I am doing. I am no saint ,by no means I have done my wrong.I learned some great things from the way my parents raised me. They weren't perfect , But dam they tried hard and I know that . I thank them for that . I was allowed to fall on my face more than once even though they knew that I would fail , This is the way you have to learn about life sometimes . I can Honestly say this has made me a strong person. Very few people get to see me at my low times, Very few people will get to. FALL DOWN 8 TIMES GET UP 9. I have taught my daughter 2 moto's  for life 1. "ALWAYS BE PREPARED" and 2 "KEEP MOVING FORWARD" . Sometime we just have to trust that God has a plan for us all. Worrying about stuff you cant control is a waste of time . And time is one thing you can never get back.  I going to leave on that note .. Hug and love your loved ones often it free


Love , Peace , And  Chicken Grease
Til next week Same bat time Same bat channel LOL

The Healthy Way

Well this one is on changing . Changing the way we live,not just for ourselves but our children also. As some of you know I have Meniere's Disease and Dr.'s don't know what causes it or how to cure it.  On top of that I have Diabetes and sleep apnea , and it really sucks. especially the diabetes. I am a big guy... ok I'm fat but hey thing is I have trouble doing exercise do to vertigo.  I did't have diabetes until after my kidneys failed. Everyone has heard of Diabetes, but it is hard for anyone to grasp the full extent of this disease until you have to live with it. This is something that I dont recommend to any one at all. I have adapted my way of living dramatically, and not by choice. This is not a diet ,but more of a life style change. And as a guy who loves candy,cake,and burgers, this is a killer. Diet cokes and sodas aren't really good for you. Label  reading is a must, and let me tell you the food world isn't diabetic friendly. Right now there are more things coming out for gluten free diets  than diabetic diets. On top of all that all this healthy eating is not cheap at all.  Rifght now  is where I start to preach. I think that if you haven't we all need to make a change , not just for ourselves but for our children. Think about it , what are you teaching your children when all you do is eat out. This is what got us in trouble in the first place. Yes it is convenient , and I understand that time is an issue also. In the long run the effort will pay off. Maybe half of all the problems we are facing medically today are do to what we put into our bodies. I use to think that I was indestructible, I was wrong. Believe me when I say you do not want to go through this, and you sure dont want you children to go through it either. So the biggest question now is how do we change. This is the tough and easy part. What do I mean by this , its easy because all it takes is education and tough because you need the Right education. There is soooooo much information out there that you can go crazy. Even if you see a registered Dietitian, which I have twice now . They have different views on some stuff. Diets dont work I know from experience  It take a life style change , and it better to do it willingly than be forced to. Our kids learn from example, if we dont show them they will look else where to learn. I write this because I care and I know how hard it is going through 4 shots a day and 6 different medicines. This is not something I want my daughter to have to go through when she gets older. Now I am not telling you to change, but maybe you will think about how you are eating and take steps to make it better. Or you may keep on keeping on and never have a problem, and that is great. But what about your children , their future could be alot different if we don't show them the way And by the way I am learning new stuff everyday and I dont have all the answers, but I am trying... Thats enough for today

stay strong and smile every day

Parenting 101

Well it looks like I have the privilege of having a child coming into the teen years, with all  attitude and sassy-ness that goes with it. Kinda makes me glad that I have no hair, this way I don't have to pull it out. I know that all parents feel my pain in one way or another. So the ultimate question is how do you deal with all of this changing in these poor kids life? I say this because I sat and tried to think about how it was when I was that age. At the time I had a choice at certain times and others I didn't mean to say things or act with attitude , it just happened. We can all agree that the transition from a child to an adult is not the easiest thing to handle in the world. especially when its happening and you have no idea why you feel the way you do. Even as adults we have times when the chemicals in our brains from stress or other circumstances make us do or say things that we normally wouldn't. So I am doing my hardest to Understand that this is a massive change and be as patient  as possible. This doesn't mean that I am allowing the attitude, more it means I am trying to explain why this is happening and how to help cope. I do crack the whip and put my beautiful can do no wrong red head back in her place as needed. I cant ever tell anyone how to raise their children, but if you ask my advice I will tell you how I handle that situation and you have the choice on how to move from there. Being a parent is way more of a job than people realize. And the way you work at that is how it will either make it easy or hard. As being a single parent myself I see challenges everyday. On top of that I have a girl which made me learn stuff that I would never have done in a million years. I am never ashamed to admit that I can braid hair , paint nails ,and yes listen about boys from my daughter. Do I like all of the things I have to do. NO not all of them,but in time when my daughter looks back on her life I hope these type of thing stick with her and make a difference. My advice to all parents out there is #1 there is no set way to raise your child. Do what you believe is right and good for them, not everything work for everybody. So when someone tells you that you are doing it wrong. Say "ok" and do what you feel is the right thing to do.#2  remember how you was at that age, chances are you was just as bad if not worse. #3 Time time time , nothing happens overnight.  plus the more time you give to your kids the less trouble they can get into. Thats all I have on this , some may agree some may not. But like all advice you can take it or leave it , that is your choice. I Encourage everyone to do stuff with you children now , for one day you may not have the ability to do it anymore. I know this first hand and believe me it sucks. Until next time stay strong and smile everyday.



peace ,love, and  Chicken grease

Time and other stuff

Time is the most valuable thing in everyone's lives, because you always loose it and can never get it back. So do we make the most of what we have? I try but due to things beyond my control it makes it very difficult. I should call more of my family more often , like my Aunts and Uncles or at least chat with them on Facebook. But in our society people are so busy its hard to get 5 mins of someones time anymore. Plus the fact that if you get me going I can talk for ever.. that's what happens when your couped up in a house all the time.. But lets face it one of the things I like to do is talk ....sorry I was born with diarrhea of the mouth and I tend to debate people on things. This isn't done intentionally all the time , but the way my brain works is I seek information . I tend to ask questions to clarify and end up offending or making people mad. There are a very few people who can stand or know how to handle me when this begins.. I really don't go out with the intention to upsetting or offending  anyone.  Your belief  is yours, same as your opinion regardless if I agree or not. That and the fact that my brain runs faster than my mouth it is sometimes hard for people to understand what I am trying say. So if I offend you , I am sorry this is not my intention. I have been trying to learn to keep my mouth shut to allow other people to convey their points but my brain kicks in to overdrive when they cross a topic that I want to chime in on. I am a thinker , I think a lot . Some times about crazy stuff , sometime about serious stuff. My parents raised me to be an individual , and at sometimes I take that to the extreme. Some things you may not know about me. 1. I do have a college degree its in computer science and networking. 2. I am a huge history buff, I love learning more details about parts of history that they didn't teach you in school. 3. I am at some times a weird nerd who likes to act like I am 25 trapped in a 40 year old body.  4. I dress the way I dress not to impress but because its comfortable, the only reason I dont wear my star wars pajama pants out in public is  because my daughter would beat me in my sleep. 5. I USE TO HAVE HAIR AND LOTS OF IT ALL RED , MY DAUGHTER STOLE IT FROM ME. This is just a few of the things that make me a genuine one of a kind. The reason that I do the things I do act the way I act is because when you have time you shouldn't waste it on worrying all the time or being mad or what ever else is keeping you from living. I LOVE WHO  I AM.  Take or leave it . 

Stay Strong 

And Smile Everyday

ZOMBIES ZOMBIES ZOMBIES

As many of you that talk to me I always say that I am preparing for the zombie apocalypse . Well to tell you the truth I am just preparing for any situation that come about. As we have seen in past years natural  disasters, or terrorist dangers have plagued us. These danger will always be just around the corner. Even the government F.E.M.A suggest that everyone have a "bug out bag" in case an emergency occurs. http://www.ready.gov/build-a-kit   This is the link. We should all be prepared ,no offense but you can not count on the government to always save  you.  This is why I have my prepping stuff around . I also believe that there could be some unforeseen event that could happen in the future. Always be prepared that is something that I try to instill into my daughter. Or you could use that old saying "better to have it and not need it , then to need it  and not have it" But using the Zombie Apocalypse is a way more fun to use as an excuse to prepare. So everyone should take the time to prepare for an emergency "Just In Case"

SO , PEACE, LOVE, AND CHICKEN GREASE

Until the next time
Stay strong, and Smile Everyday

2013 the year of ????

Well here we are almost 3 months into 2013 and I can honestly say it has already been one hell of a let down.  I know thing cant possibly stay this way for ever but who knows. In case you don't know me very well I am a survivor I will get past anything thrown at me.. and I usually do it alone.. I ask for very little help if any from anyone. I will have been out of work for almost 3 1/2 years  now .. I had the foresight to get long term disability insurance to cover my financial  responsibilities. I haven't used any state, federal , or local  assistance. funny thing is if you need it you cant get it. But  I guess I don't know how to work the system.  Plus I am too honest . But the funny thing is when someone goes to get health insurance after his CObra is  up .  It cost 2 times as much as the cobra and doesn't include vision,dental, or Prescription coverage. I tell you I am not a fan of this Obama care that is my personal opinion, But there needs to be some serious reform in our health care system.. You want me to eat super healthy make a Salad .99cents and a cheese burger 5.99 . Where does that make sense that we are suppose to eat healthy ,but they make it so expensive that you can't afford to do it . I am on a limited budget since they raised the rates on my Cobra and my house payment. It is rare that I complain but this is total bullshot. I ask for just alittle help to make it buy for just a few months until I can get my stuff all squared away . But so may idiots abused the system that there are no exceptions , go figure. This year is coming with some very tough decisions, ones that I am not thrilled with but must be done. What I am referring to is that my daughter and I are moving back to Indiana sometime by the end of the year. Reason: Personal Family stuff, that is about as much as I am gonna put on a public forum. We have lived in TN nearly 11 years and we have loved every minute of it .We have made many many many friends and family here. It will be hard to move so far away.  But hey I am giving some of my southern family  a reason to come to yankeeville  LOL . As many of you know I take great care and pride in raising my daughter to be the best she can be. I believe that I am fulfilling that to the best of my ability and no mater what my condition or disability  I will continue to make sure that my little genius excels at everything. So with all of my ranting and raving over with I would like to make sure that we get to spend some time  with everyone down here before we go. Again it will be toward the end of the year , but I want to make the most of it while we can . For those who are reading my blog for the first time I have meinieres disease which doesn't allow me to work . I am going to have surgery in the future to take care of my severe attacks, but I will  have to go through therapy and rehab for the rest of my life. And my dizzy Dr. say no to work. so yee haw... So ladies and gentleman  until next time  stay strong and smile at least once a day it helps trust me.