Life

As some may have noticed I changed the title of my blog. The reason for this is I don't think it accurately described the content that I have been putting on here. I believe that I am not really angry, but more frustrated at so many things in this thing we call life. So I am going  to try to write about thing from my past,present,and future. Try to be more positive about the things that I write in my blog. For instance I seen on the tv for something that perked my interest. The website called iamsecond.com , I encourage everyone with or with out faith  to check this out. This is a great testament to Jesus Christ, with many testimonials on so may levels. Now I know that some of my friends and family believe and some don't. And this is fine most know where I stand. Just in case you don't know I am saved so is my daughter. There was  information on the website that has really made sense to me. I know that I should do better in my life to be a better person on many different levels. And I consider myself a work in progress still. I truly found faith during my divorce, it was hard . I had a few choices on how to live my life I could bow out be a part time dad. Being involved when I decided to or had time. But I always knew in my life that I was destine to be or do something great. And then it hit me , I was to be a father to the best of my ability. If you know me I work really hard at this honor as I would put it . See I believe it is a privilege  to be a parent , and I have been blessed to have the most amazing daughter in the universe. She continues to impress and amaze me everyday. I have no doubt that she herself will grow up to great things, what ever they may be. I know a few new parents , and I always get asked advice on how to do things. I kind of stay away from giving them advice,but more tell them what worked for me . every child has a unique personality and not everything works for everyone. Man being a Parent  is a hard job. probably the most stressful . Not for the fact of what the kids do , but more the worrying if you are making the right choices to guiding  them to be the best that they can be. I am very fortunate to being told that I am doing a great job raising my daughter on my own . This is also stressful because now I have to strive to maintain or improve on what I am doing. I am no saint ,by no means I have done my wrong.I learned some great things from the way my parents raised me. They weren't perfect , But dam they tried hard and I know that . I thank them for that . I was allowed to fall on my face more than once even though they knew that I would fail , This is the way you have to learn about life sometimes . I can Honestly say this has made me a strong person. Very few people get to see me at my low times, Very few people will get to. FALL DOWN 8 TIMES GET UP 9. I have taught my daughter 2 moto's  for life 1. "ALWAYS BE PREPARED" and 2 "KEEP MOVING FORWARD" . Sometime we just have to trust that God has a plan for us all. Worrying about stuff you cant control is a waste of time . And time is one thing you can never get back.  I going to leave on that note .. Hug and love your loved ones often it free


Love , Peace , And  Chicken Grease
Til next week Same bat time Same bat channel LOL

The Healthy Way

Well this one is on changing . Changing the way we live,not just for ourselves but our children also. As some of you know I have Meniere's Disease and Dr.'s don't know what causes it or how to cure it.  On top of that I have Diabetes and sleep apnea , and it really sucks. especially the diabetes. I am a big guy... ok I'm fat but hey thing is I have trouble doing exercise do to vertigo.  I did't have diabetes until after my kidneys failed. Everyone has heard of Diabetes, but it is hard for anyone to grasp the full extent of this disease until you have to live with it. This is something that I dont recommend to any one at all. I have adapted my way of living dramatically, and not by choice. This is not a diet ,but more of a life style change. And as a guy who loves candy,cake,and burgers, this is a killer. Diet cokes and sodas aren't really good for you. Label  reading is a must, and let me tell you the food world isn't diabetic friendly. Right now there are more things coming out for gluten free diets  than diabetic diets. On top of all that all this healthy eating is not cheap at all.  Rifght now  is where I start to preach. I think that if you haven't we all need to make a change , not just for ourselves but for our children. Think about it , what are you teaching your children when all you do is eat out. This is what got us in trouble in the first place. Yes it is convenient , and I understand that time is an issue also. In the long run the effort will pay off. Maybe half of all the problems we are facing medically today are do to what we put into our bodies. I use to think that I was indestructible, I was wrong. Believe me when I say you do not want to go through this, and you sure dont want you children to go through it either. So the biggest question now is how do we change. This is the tough and easy part. What do I mean by this , its easy because all it takes is education and tough because you need the Right education. There is soooooo much information out there that you can go crazy. Even if you see a registered Dietitian, which I have twice now . They have different views on some stuff. Diets dont work I know from experience  It take a life style change , and it better to do it willingly than be forced to. Our kids learn from example, if we dont show them they will look else where to learn. I write this because I care and I know how hard it is going through 4 shots a day and 6 different medicines. This is not something I want my daughter to have to go through when she gets older. Now I am not telling you to change, but maybe you will think about how you are eating and take steps to make it better. Or you may keep on keeping on and never have a problem, and that is great. But what about your children , their future could be alot different if we don't show them the way And by the way I am learning new stuff everyday and I dont have all the answers, but I am trying... Thats enough for today

stay strong and smile every day

Parenting 101

Well it looks like I have the privilege of having a child coming into the teen years, with all  attitude and sassy-ness that goes with it. Kinda makes me glad that I have no hair, this way I don't have to pull it out. I know that all parents feel my pain in one way or another. So the ultimate question is how do you deal with all of this changing in these poor kids life? I say this because I sat and tried to think about how it was when I was that age. At the time I had a choice at certain times and others I didn't mean to say things or act with attitude , it just happened. We can all agree that the transition from a child to an adult is not the easiest thing to handle in the world. especially when its happening and you have no idea why you feel the way you do. Even as adults we have times when the chemicals in our brains from stress or other circumstances make us do or say things that we normally wouldn't. So I am doing my hardest to Understand that this is a massive change and be as patient  as possible. This doesn't mean that I am allowing the attitude, more it means I am trying to explain why this is happening and how to help cope. I do crack the whip and put my beautiful can do no wrong red head back in her place as needed. I cant ever tell anyone how to raise their children, but if you ask my advice I will tell you how I handle that situation and you have the choice on how to move from there. Being a parent is way more of a job than people realize. And the way you work at that is how it will either make it easy or hard. As being a single parent myself I see challenges everyday. On top of that I have a girl which made me learn stuff that I would never have done in a million years. I am never ashamed to admit that I can braid hair , paint nails ,and yes listen about boys from my daughter. Do I like all of the things I have to do. NO not all of them,but in time when my daughter looks back on her life I hope these type of thing stick with her and make a difference. My advice to all parents out there is #1 there is no set way to raise your child. Do what you believe is right and good for them, not everything work for everybody. So when someone tells you that you are doing it wrong. Say "ok" and do what you feel is the right thing to do.#2  remember how you was at that age, chances are you was just as bad if not worse. #3 Time time time , nothing happens overnight.  plus the more time you give to your kids the less trouble they can get into. Thats all I have on this , some may agree some may not. But like all advice you can take it or leave it , that is your choice. I Encourage everyone to do stuff with you children now , for one day you may not have the ability to do it anymore. I know this first hand and believe me it sucks. Until next time stay strong and smile everyday.



peace ,love, and  Chicken grease